Next Transfamily Support Group of Santa Cruz County Meeting:
Sat., June 3, 2017, 3:00 to 5:00 pm. Please call 831-818-2253 for information and location details.

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Transfamily Mom Attends CA Senate Hearing for SB-179

Photo op at the capitol with Senator Weiner who co-authored SB-179
with some of us from The Intersex and Genderqueer Recognition Project

On April 25th I took my second trip to Sacramento to help advance SB-179 through our California legislature to hopefully see it become law later this year. I wrote a previous blog on April 13th after our first trip to Sacramento April 4th detailing our adventure. I hope you'll enjoying reading it as well.

 SB-179 will provide 3 things:
* A third gender option "non-binary" on driver's licences.
* Will remove the current doctor letter requirement in order to receive a court order for legal name and/or gender change.
* Will allow minors 16+ to apply for a legal name and/or gender change with only one parent's approval. 

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Transfamily Mom at March For Science Santa Cruz

Today April 22th, 2017 was the National March for Science and I wanted my participation to talk about the science surrounding transgender identities. I made a dual sided sign which I proudly held high as I marched along with 4000 other attendees, a large crowd in our relatively small town of Santa Cruz.

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Santa Cruz Transfamily Moms Lobby State Senate for SB-179

Dina Oskiera (mom), Sasha Buchert (Transgender Law Center), Andi Paradise (mom)

On April 4th , 2017 Dina Oskiera and I (Andi Paradise) traveled to Sacramento with Sara Kelly Keenan to the California state capitol to lobby senators on the Transportation and Housing Committee to vote in favor of state senate bill  SB-179. This bill was introduced by state senators Toni Atkins (D) and Scott Weiner (D) in support of the "T", "I", "Q" and "+" of the LGBTIQ+ community. You can view the bill here

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Thank you, Heidi Koronkowski

Heidi Koronkowski recently moved on from her primary leadership role in the Transfamily Support Group of Santa Cruz County. Since 2010 Heidi has been solidifying and building our group's mission to support trans youth by way of providing emotional and informational support to the parents and other family members of transgender children of every age. 

In a recent conversation with Heidi, she shared that of all the experiences she’s had leading the Transfamily Support Group, there was nothing more rewarding for her than providing that critical one-on-one support in person or on the phone taking calls any time of day or night (even in the bathtub) from local, national, and international family members in distress and needing support. Heidi never forgot the early days of her own child's transition, a time of isolation and fear, when she didn't have the answers she needed to support her child in the best way possible. Heidi’s motivation for everything connected with the Transfamily Support Group is made in an effort to spare as many families as possible from feeling that pain. 

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Clarifying Trans Civil Rights Current Events

The recent political events pertaining to trans civil rights have been difficult for many to follow.  I would like to offer these summary points to simplify what has happened and what it all means: 

A Mother's Response to Trans Phobia

In response to recent political events one of our members, a mother of a younger trans student, shares the following personal message.

“This bathroom thing.
For most of my friends, I know you understand. Here's the thing: 

Trans girls go to extreme lengths to make sure no one sees any private parts because they don't want to feel different from all the other girls. Same goes for trans boys. Forcing them to use a separate bathroom makes them feel like they're so different/wrong/shunned that they have to be separated from all the other kids, and it's a daily reminder to them and their peers that they're different, and different in a bad way. 

It also hurts the friends of these kids, who have no problem accepting their friend as one of the girls/boys and don't understand why adults are segregating them. (It's almost always the adults, not the kids, who have a problem with trans equality.) 

As for locker rooms, same deal. Most kids these days go to great lengths to not reveal anything when changing (ask your kids who are changing for gym in middle school). Stop sexualizing trans kids. They're not in the bathrooms or locker rooms looking to ogle bodies. (And some trans girls will be growing their own bona fide breasts and will be able to breastfeed if they choose, something most people don't know.) If that's what people were really afraid of, we'd be separating kids by sexual orientation, which of course is unthinkable. It's also unthinkable to force trans kids to use separate bathrooms. 
They're not harming anyone. Really, they're not. 

If you're an ally, please help educate those around you. It's our only way forward through all the ignorance.”

Friday, February 17, 2017

Cox Grammy Appearance Shines Light on Trans Teen Gavin Grimm's Pending Supreme Court Case

At the Grammy awards, Feb 12, 2017, transgender actress Laverne Cox (Netflix's Orange is the New Black and CBS' Doubt debuting Feb 15, 2017) was on hand to introduced Lady Gaga and Metallica. When Cox took to the stage, she challenged everyone to "Google Gavin Grimm and #StandWithGavin." So, who is Gavin Grimm?  He is a transgender teen who's ACLU case fighting for bathroom access for transgender kids at schools will be heard before the US Supreme Court at the end of March 2017.